Beautiful, Jocelyn. I’m so glad you reshared this. I relate to the fear and cost of standing up for yourself in high stakes relationships like your parents. Well done. Love how you tied in the example of patience paying off in art and life. I look forward to listening. 🎶
PS I’m struck by the fact that you stood up for yourself a second time on the phone call. By asserting the importance of having a writer and brats who stands up for herself he planted the logic in her mind and reinforced it in your own no doubt.. 🙌🏻
This! I didn't even think of it that way, but you're right! I did do it twice. ;) I think the cool thing is, this woman, without trying to, showed me how. This is a woman who stands up for herself and who doesn't bother with bullshit. And maybe in the back of my head I was channeling what she would do.
Of course you do. ❤️ I think it's so much harder with parents. There is so much more at stake, real and imagined. But it was challenging with this person, because I saw her as so strong and no nonsense. I thought she would just think I was weak or foolish. As it turns out, we worked together for five years and are now really good friends. 😍 And thank you for noticing the tie in! :) I wasn't sure how it tied in when I realized I wanted to share it and then it came to me as I was describing it. I love that. Intuition in action. ;)
Standing up for one’s self is huge. Whenever I sense that I am allowing others to speak over me, or when I find myself just going along that path of least resistance because it seems easier, I am deeply aware of how I am not being an honest person in how I represent myself. It has cost me to stand up for myself, but in doing so I find that I am actually giving voice to others too. That is empowering.
I’m so glad you wrote that text and then backed it up by stating your poison in the meeting. I often ask my husband if he expected a rubber stamp response from me because if he does, he should just go buy that rubber stamp, put his name on it, and then pretend I used it to give him the response he wanted from me.
Oh I love this, Sally, "It has cost me to stand up for myself, but in doing so I find that I am actually giving voice to others too. That is empowering." Voice to yourself and others. Yes. I also love how you talk about just going along and least resistance. That's such a big part of it, and it seems easier at the time, sort of, but also it feels so awful inside and all of that "least resistance" builds up, doesn't it?
The rubber stamp response. That's a fabulous line, Sally. 🥰 xoxo
Beautiful, Jocelyn. I’m so glad you reshared this. I relate to the fear and cost of standing up for yourself in high stakes relationships like your parents. Well done. Love how you tied in the example of patience paying off in art and life. I look forward to listening. 🎶
PS I’m struck by the fact that you stood up for yourself a second time on the phone call. By asserting the importance of having a writer and brats who stands up for herself he planted the logic in her mind and reinforced it in your own no doubt.. 🙌🏻
This! I didn't even think of it that way, but you're right! I did do it twice. ;) I think the cool thing is, this woman, without trying to, showed me how. This is a woman who stands up for herself and who doesn't bother with bullshit. And maybe in the back of my head I was channeling what she would do.
Of course you do. ❤️ I think it's so much harder with parents. There is so much more at stake, real and imagined. But it was challenging with this person, because I saw her as so strong and no nonsense. I thought she would just think I was weak or foolish. As it turns out, we worked together for five years and are now really good friends. 😍 And thank you for noticing the tie in! :) I wasn't sure how it tied in when I realized I wanted to share it and then it came to me as I was describing it. I love that. Intuition in action. ;)
Standing up for one’s self is huge. Whenever I sense that I am allowing others to speak over me, or when I find myself just going along that path of least resistance because it seems easier, I am deeply aware of how I am not being an honest person in how I represent myself. It has cost me to stand up for myself, but in doing so I find that I am actually giving voice to others too. That is empowering.
I’m so glad you wrote that text and then backed it up by stating your poison in the meeting. I often ask my husband if he expected a rubber stamp response from me because if he does, he should just go buy that rubber stamp, put his name on it, and then pretend I used it to give him the response he wanted from me.
Oh I love this, Sally, "It has cost me to stand up for myself, but in doing so I find that I am actually giving voice to others too. That is empowering." Voice to yourself and others. Yes. I also love how you talk about just going along and least resistance. That's such a big part of it, and it seems easier at the time, sort of, but also it feels so awful inside and all of that "least resistance" builds up, doesn't it?
The rubber stamp response. That's a fabulous line, Sally. 🥰 xoxo